*Confused in Santa Barbara

*Coworker Fetish

Dear Dr. Joe,
Sometimes, when I drink, I get this "funny" feeling. It's like I lose some self-control, and I do things that I would otherwise not do. For instance, I went to a bar to pick up some chics, and the next day I woke up beside a guy. This is something that I have never done! Why is this happening to me?
"Bob", Confused in Santa Barbara, California

Dear "Bob",
What did you drink?
It sounds like this feeling is not anomaly. Is this excuse of "when I drink" a cop out? Try not drinking the next time you go out and see if the "funny" feeling comes back. Let me know what happens!

Dear Doctor,
My roommate and best friend (Susan) is dating this new guy now. She seems happy with him and hasn't had a boyfriend in a while, so I am glad that she is dating someone. Here's the problem. I was with her on the night when she first met him, and before my boyfriend came up, he was scoping me out, not her. Every time I have seen him since then I get the feeling that he is looking at me and he has made underhanded comments about my boyfriend, as though trying to break my relationship up. Also, twice now he has made plans with Susan and canceled them at the last minute. I want Susan to be happy, but I worry that this guy is using her. Should I tell her that I think he is after me, or should I let her figure out that he is not a nice guy? I don't want to see her get hurt, but I also don't want her to resent me. Searching for Answers in Austin

Dear "Searching",
The best thing to do in a situation like this is to tell "Susan" the truth. Then here comes the fun, this guy deserves some mind games! Sit down with Susan and elaborate! Make sure to make it good and teach this peice of scum a lesson!